Saturday, December 4, 2021

Sometimes, we're a lot alike

Like I wrote not too long ago, Amy is sometimes a lot like me. Latest instance is our choice of shirts...

Mine is a Rose Apothecary sweatshirt. Rose Apothecary is the store owned by David Rose and (spoiler alert!) his husband Patrick on the TV show Schitt's Creek, which I am a recent convert for. I watched the entire show over the past few months and I just love it so much, it brings me great joy. I decided to buy some merch to celebrate the show, knowing full well that most people won't have any clue what the shirt is about, or make the connection to the show. So it's kind of a little secret code. It would be awesome if anyone out in the world connects the dots, but if they don't, that's fine too – the shirt is for me! I suppose it's similar to the way I've always liked the things that are less popular – the lesser-known bands and singers, for example. Like they belong to you more because they belong to fewer people. 

Amy also has a shirt with a similar story. She watches a lot of YouTube Minecraft gamers, and really desperately wanted the holiday merch from one of them. The shirt arrived the other day and made her so happy! And just like my Rose Apothecary shirt, very few (if any) people will see her shirt and know what it's about, but that's okay – the shirt is for her. And if anyone does recognize it, then she's made a connection. 




Wednesday, December 1, 2021

Amy the gift giver

We joke that Amy is spending most of her Hallmark salary buying stuff at Hallmark, which is something she gave her friend Molly a hard time for when she was doing the same thing. But she is choosing things for her friends that she knows they'll love. I'm proud to see her thinking through her friends' personalities and likes, and choosing just the right gift for each one. Now to see if she makes it anywhere close to Christmas before she delivers her gifts – she's having a hard time waiting! And this year she also seems more open to receiving gifts as well. I remember several years ago when she bought gifts for a few friends, but delivered them in secret because she didn't want the friends to feel obligated to get her a gift, or to feel bad that they hadn't gotten her anything. She is a kind soul.

Tuesday, November 30, 2021

Yay, and also whoops

We knew with Reed coming home for 10 days for Thanksgiving break that juggling everyone's car needs would be tough. Amy feels very strongly that she should have access to a car every day so she can drive a couple friends to school, drive them all home again after rehearsals, and of course drive to work at Hallmark (fair enough). Reed had signed up for some jobs with Woofie's. Tod drives to work every day. I like to leave the house in farther than a 2-mile walking radius. So we started shopping for a fourth vehicle. 

I'll start by saying this is a terrible time to buy a car. With supply chain issues caused by the pandemic, new cars are hard to come by and sold at a premium, so used cars are in tremendous demand. I scoured the internet searching for suitable cars for Reed, and eventually went to the local Honda dealer to look at a few of them. Saw a couple of decent options for around $20K. Then the sales guy said hey this Honda Civic is above your price range, but it's a 2022 with about 2K miles on it (he said it'd been used as a loaner for people whose cars were being serviced). So it's basically a brand new car, without the $4K additional premium that's being added to the cost of new cars these days. It's a basic model (sadly...no heated seats or sun roof!) of what should be a very safe, reliable car – we are viewing it as an investment (is this a delusion? maybe!). Though it seems kind of crazy to buy a basically brand new car for a 19 year old, that's what we did. Our thought is that it will be his car for many years to come, and will allow him to have no car payment when he graduates college, and he'll have reliable transportation for quite some time. Reed was grateful and happy to have his own transportation without having to bicker with Amy for access to the Cube, but in typical Reed fashion he didn't want to be part of the search process and didn't seem particularly jazzed about the fact that he had a brand new car. He just takes things as they come. I suppose that serves him well.

On Thanksgiving, when we'd had the car for only six days, Reed decided he'd drive to Wanda's house for Thanksgiving dinner separately so he could stop by Aly's apartment to take care of her cat while she was away in Florida. In hindsight, really wish we'd gone together. On the way home, we didn't even make it out of Herndon before we saw blue flashing lights behind us, and watched as Reed got pulled over. He ran a red light (he says it only turned red as he passed underneath it). We pulled over nearby and Tod walked over near the car to be there for moral support. We all hoped he'd bet let off with a warning. No such luck. It's a $170 ticket, and it's not going to be pretty once that hits our insurance. (We will be looking for a driver improvement class to try to help defray these penalties.) I'd ridden with him in the new car a couple times before this happened and I told him he needed to temper that lead foot he seemed to have developed – I sincerely hope that this will truly be a lesson learned and Reed will drive more slowly and carefully from here on out. 

Tuesday, November 23, 2021

Love this kid

Amy told us she had a Christmas list....and it's a shared file on Google Drive, with links to each item and recommendations on shipping. I cannot love this more, seeing how her list-making progresses each year. Grandma Larson would be delighted with this level of organization.

Tuesday, October 26, 2021

What will happen to all the pictures?

In the olden days, people didn’t take a ton of pictures. Even families who were big photo takers didn’t have all that many photos compared to the number of pictures that families take now that everyone has a phone in their pocket. 

I have accumulated dozens of photo albums over the 20+ years that Tod and I have been together, and then a few years ago I started doing photo books, and there are dozens of those as well. 

What’s going to become of these when we’re gone? There are just waaaaay more than it would be reasonable to expect the kids to want to keep. So what will become of them, will anyone even look through them before they are tossed out? *Sigh* 

As older family members have passed away, it’s been so wonderful to get ahold of all their photo albums so I could scan the pictures and have them electronically. Doing that over the years has left me with a terrific digital photo trove, and carefully cataloguing the pictures makes it simple to find the photos I need.

It was supposed to be my retirement project to clean up our photo library – get rid of duplicates and the ‘bad’ pics (sure, I *take* four snaps of the same scene, but do I really need to keep them all?), and be sure all the pics are tagged appropriately. But I’ve just been too busy to even start on that yet. First there was a graduation party to plan, then getting Reed ready for college, then Tod’s Dad passing away, plus all my Dems stuff. Maybe post-election I will have time to start?? Of course then it’ll be time to get ready for Christmas. 

I was thinking about this massive photo library and what will happen to it. There are so many – 84,291 at the moment – would the kids each want to keep a copy of all those pictures? What will the technology even be by then? Will there be cheap digital cloud storage they can use? Are my tags going to still be there? Or will the AI be so advanced that it won’t matter much anymore, computers will just “know” who’s who? 

I wonder if I should stop doing photo books. They will just end up being something the kids will have to deal with after we are gone, do we want to leave them with a bunch of things they don’t want? Tod says since I enjoy doing them, I should continue making them. And after all, I won’t know what happens to them after I’m gone!

I hope that the kids will want to keep at least the digital photos to remember everything and everyone by. So many good memories. 

Monday, September 20, 2021

Working Girl

Amy started her first real job yesterday!

Her pal Molly started working at the local Hallmark in August, and told her they were looking to hire another high school student, so she immediately applied. It took them a month to get their act together to have her start, but yesterday was her first day on the job. 

She got a bit of training and was quickly ringing up customers. Hopefully this will be a great weekend/holidays job for her to earn money so she can continue going out to eat with her theatre friends, and buying all the merch she wants, to support artists/Twitch streamers.

How we're doing

We're more than four weeks into the college experience, and so far, so good. We haven't had a whole lot of communication from Reed, which has been hard for us. After 8 days, we forced him to call and check in, and we've both been having text exchanges from time to time – I think the only time he reached out on his own was to ask a question about washing his sheets. But we will take this lack of communication over getting phone calls that he's miserable, for sure. He went with his roommate to the first two home football games of the season, and they also went to the movies one night, as well as shopping trips to Walmart and Ross. They seem to be getting along fine (fingers cross that it stays that way!). 

The second weekly phone call we had, on Labor Day, he had been sick (!!!!!) – but on his own he went to the school clinic to get checked out (including a covid test, thankfully negative). Just a case of "freshman crud," but the doctor advised staying home until his fever was gone without meds, so he missed three days of classes. He was able to use the food delivery robots to get some of his meals brought to him.

So far he doesn't seem to be having a ton of work in his classes, though he mentioned yesterday it was starting to pick up. 

We were very happy to hear that he went to the Madison Historians club the second week of classes, and had fun playing history Jeopardy. He missed the third week, but went back last week and they sat on the quad and afterward he went to dinner with a few of them. Hopefully this will help him find "his people".

It's still strange that he's away, but I think we're all hanging in there – he sure seems to be fine! Being half-empty nesters is definitely a change for us but it's good. Really looking forward to seeing him at family weekend in a couple weeks.

Friday, August 27, 2021

What we're worried about: College edition

It's tough sending your kid off to college. We've spent nearly 19 years (well, if you want to get technical and count while he was in utero, I have spent more than 19 years) knowing where your kid is all the time, hearing about their day, and generally how they're doing. Then you're just supposed to....stop? It is really a lot to ask.

We dropped Reed off last Saturday. We've had a handful of text message exchanges with him, which is great, but we haven't spoken in a week now. While he's given us brief comments about some of the activities and his classes, we have no clue how he's doing. How is the roommate situation going? Is he getting enough to eat, and using his meal plan wisely? Has he met any new friends? Who's he going to meals with?

When Tod and I talked about our worries, he correctly pointed out that we're each worried most about the thing that was hardest for us in college. Tod is worried that Reed will be too homesick. I'm worried that he won't make friends and get involved. 

I can only imagine what a culture shock it was for Tod when his parents put him on a plane to West Point (and he walked away from his parent to get on the plane, and didn't even look back at them, as his Mom always reminded him). He'd never even visited the school. And the Hudson Valley of New York couldn't be more different than southeastern Montana. He wrote lots of letters home (we have some in the basement, we gotta read through those things!). But ultimately he adjusted and made lifelong friends. No clue if Reed's feeling homesick...hopefully we will get to talk with him soon and try to gauge his mood.

My college experience was considerably shorter than Tod's, of course. Radford was overcrowded at the time, so they put me in a room with two other girls, though it wasn't built for that. And the two girls were best friends. Did I mention that they both also had been high school cheerleaders, and probably among the most popular at their high school in Woodbridge? Good times. They were nice enough to me, but the situation definitely made me a third wheel. I had also started dating the guy who would become my first husband (shocking, I know...I think the kids keep forgetting this fact about me) the summer before college, so my mind was also on home. I have been trying to remember details about my one semester of college, but I can't remember much at all, not even how drop off went! I am not sure I ever ate a meal in the cafeteria with anyone else, I only remember eating alone. And I definitely didn't talk to people in my classes. I did college all wrong. No wonder it didn't work out for me (well, it worked out in the end, but not at the time!). So my biggest fear is that Reed will stay in his room talking to his old friends over video games and never meeting new people at JMU or getting involved in any activities. 

It's entirely possible that neither of these things will be problems for Reed, and he'll have some other issue altogether. Or maybe he'll have no issues! We are just hoping he will be safe and happy, and get the most out of his time in college. I know this is all the natural order of things, but that doesn't make it any easier!

And then there was one...

Down to just one kid for the first day of school – how strange! And this year, even more strange since the last time Amy attended class in person was in March of 2019. 

In another first for us, Amy drove herself to school. She picked up her friend Annika (right now she's only allowed to drive one person, since she's a new driver) and got to school early to hang out in the Black Box (otherwise known as the theatre classroom) "just like real theatre kids!". 

We did our usual "night before school starts name and grade pancakes," of course!


And even though Reed wasn't home, we still made pancakes for him too. 


I hope it will be a great year, and I hope covid doesn't screw it all up again.

Sunday, August 22, 2021

Off to college

I suppose you could argue the whole point of being a parent is to care for your children and teach them, so they can launch into the world successfully. Who thought that was a good idea?!  

We spent the last couple of months working through the processes required by James Madison University, and doing other prep work to gather all the stuff Reed would need at school. We tried to let him do all the work without reminders, but I had a hard time stopping with the reminders – a years' long habit can't stop that easily. Reed wasn't too interested in the "stuff" he'd need for school. He worked with me to choose a small bit of stuff, but then was happy to just let me gather the rest of the things I thought he needed. It will be interesting to see what stuff returns home at the end of the school year, unopened or unused. Some things he didn't want to take, but I packed them anyway – like a deck of cards, Skip-Bo and Uno, as well as Cards Against Humanity. He wanted to take as few clothes as possible....I mostly let him do that, since he'll be the one to deal with the consequences of only having seven pairs of socks. Laundry's gonna have to happen like clockwork, or there will be some stinky feet. LOL

We dropped Reed off at JMU this past Saturday. Most of his friends had already left for school, and I think he was ready to go. He's always quiet so I can't be totally sure he wasn't anxious, but he seemed okay with it all. He had a randomly assigned roommate, who'd already moved in and was there to greet us and then leave us to unload and set up. He didn't bring a ton of stuff, so it didn't take too long. 

Then we realized we needed a crate or something to store his snacks in, plus I'd bought conditioner not shampoo, so he let us do the Target run to pick those things up. While we were gone, Reed got a head start on getting the lay of the land and orienting himself to the campus. His dorm building, Shorts Hall, is....not great. It was built in 1968 and somehow hasn't been upgraded since then, it's kind of astonishing. And there's no air conditioning. I think it's the kind of thing that will build character and will allow the kids there to have a "back in my day" kind of story – so there is some upside to it! Honestly once these few weeks of hot weather are done, I don't think the kids will have any issues with the dorm. Well, scratch that...the dorm is across the road from the football stadium, where the band practices daily. Eventually I guess that will become background noise that they don't even notice. And it will be super easy to go to the football games!

Reed was ready for us to get out of his hair once we dropped off our Target purchases, so we took one last family picture before we headed out.


Man, was it hard to drive away from there, especially for Tod, coming so close after losing his Dad. So much change for our family in such a short amount of time (and that's not even including the fact that Shelby spent two nights in the doggie hospital while Tod was in South Dakota for his Dad's funeral – we were really scared about that, but she is fine now). 

Did we prepare him well enough? Will he make good friends? Remember to go to class? I guess time will tell. I think he was ready and he will do great. I can't wait to hear all about it, and counting down the days until we see him again at Family Weekend in early October. 

Tonight as I finished making dinner, I reached into the cabinet to get dinner plates out. I realized now I only need three plates. Boy is this hard. With the pandemic going on for so long, I have spent literally almost every single day for the last year and a half with Reed – more time than we've spent together since he was born. It has been a privilege to get that extra time with him (though it would have been very much preferable to have had the kids in school and doing normal stuff all this time). We are really missing him already, it's so strange to not have him here!

It seems like not that long ago that we were sending this little boy off to Kindergarten. 💜💛💜💛



Friday, August 20, 2021

Farewell Grandpa Larson


We are all so sad to have lost Tod's Dad on August 10, 2021. While it wasn't completely unexpected, it wasn't really expected either – his health had gone downhill, and he'd also had several falls over the last several months. He wasn't really able to do the things he loved to do anymore, but he still got joy from talking with family on the phone, in person visits when they could, and from having coffee at McDonald's with his friends most days. Tod called him pretty much every Sunday morning for all the years I've known him, keeping Keith updated on his life, hearing what was going on in Keith's world. Keith didn't really understand the work Tod does – could it possibly be any more different than the work of Keith's life? – and the top secret nature of the job didn't help. But he always tried to understand, and he certainly always wanted to hear what the kids were up to.

Tod and Amy went to South Dakota just about six weeks prior to Keith's passing, to attend the funeral of Keith's brother Pete's wife Nubby. It is a blessing that all four surviving kids were able to see him on that trip.


I feel fortunate to have had Keith in my life since 1999, or it might have been 1998. I remember meeting he and Eileen at a softball game. Tod was on a team with the guy I was dating at the time. Keith and Eileen had come to visit Tod, and were there in the stands to cheer him on. Tod later told me his Dad had said something to him along the lines of "that girl at the game seemed nice, why don't you date her?" Thank goodness he eventually did.

Reading his obituary, and hearing his friends and family tell stories about him, I learned a lot more about Keith and what an interesting and varied life he led. He was retired when I met him, but still active in various organizations. In fact, as his children attended his funeral service, they were in a church he helped to come to fruition – and they could even look to their right out the church windows and see the family's final home in Ekalaka. Living in a small town, there were plenty of opportunities to serve the community, and both he and Eileen sure did so.

Keith imparted a strong work ethic in his children, and a love and dedication to family. He was a story teller – you might say a bullshitter – and loved to talk to pretty much anyone. Including Keith and Kent's "birth story" in the funeral program was a wonderful touch - that particular story will live in infamy. I've heard Tod tell it too, and even when he tells it, some folks swallow it hook, line and sinker! 


We will miss Keith so much.

Sunday, July 11, 2021

Perfect gift!

Back before I retired, Reed told me that he'd ordered a retirement gift for me, but that it wouldn't come until June or July. Intriguing! Well, the day finally arrived.... 

This is my all-time favorite movie. It's a special "Criterion Collection" edition, which improved the visual and audio quality from the original 1938 movie, and has a special new cover (which is awesome). 

I love that Reed came up with this idea on his own. He's a real movie buff, so it's great that he was able to tap into that and make a connection with something I love.

We watched the movie the other night, Tod, Reed and me. It made me so happy to see him laughing along with this movie, which goes a mile a minute with the humor. I am grateful to see us making a connection through movies. He's a good kid.

Saturday, July 10, 2021

Reed's first job!

It's finally happened - Reed has his first job! He searched the local job listings after graduation and saw that the local franchise for Woofie's was hiring, and applied. Woofie's does in-home pet care - dog walks/feeding, and other kinds of pets as well. Aly worked for the Woofie's in Ashburn for a couple of years when she was home from school, so Reed knew a little bit about it. He had a phone interview, then an in-person chat as he turned in his background check paperwork, and was hired as a contractor. The owners came along on the first two different dog clients he had, but since then he's been on his own. He's always been really good about getting himself up in time to get to school or wherever he needed to be, so he's been managing it completely on his own (as he should, he's 18!).

It seems this franchise is still in growth mode. The jobs haven't been as plentiful as he (and we) hoped. But this is a great first job experience for him and one that will hopefully help prepare him for future jobs down the road.

Thursday, June 24, 2021

Diversity


A couple weeks ago, Reed got together with a bunch of pals for a draft for their new spikeball league. They even dressed up and everything. [Side note: SO grateful that he's finally getting to do some social things, after missing out on them for a year!] They took a big group picture, and I was reminded again what a different environment our kids are growing up in - both from my own childhood in the same county, and certainly from Tod's childhood in Montana.

Growing up in Loudoun County, it seems to me thinking back that "diversity" was mostly limited to Black folks, and a few people of Asian descent. Looking at some data, it seems Loudoun was 90% White in the 1980s. Things have changed so much here in our home county. Population has soared, and diversified so much - Whites now make up about 55% of the population. 

I am very grateful that our kids are growing up in this version of LoCo. I don't think they notice race, or give it much thought - people are just people, and if they happen to be brown or Black, it makes no difference. It's just all about are they a good person, someone who's fun to be around. With their diverse friend group, I hope they're learning more about other cultures and the ways other families do things that might be different from ours. This is an area I know I could do better in - I don't really have many friends who aren't White. Actually I don't have a ton of friends at all, so it's a small sample size. It's hard to know how to remedy this situation - making friends as an adult is hard. But it is something that's on my mind.

Our country continues to be in the middle of a racial reckoning - and the accompanying backlash - and I hope we're doing all we can to be on the right side of history.

Monday, June 21, 2021

My Fairfax County career

I started writing this just after I retired, then accidentally deleted a small section, got frustrated about it and put it aside. I may have to revisit later to add/update, maybe add some pictures too.

I retired on April 23 after more than 31 years working for Fairfax County. As I think back over those years, I decided it would be good to document my career...as I wrote, I realized it is also a bit of a life timeline as well. I'm guessing on some of the details here, but as they say "good enough for government work," right?

Back in 1989, my second cousin Debbie Hutchison was working as a secretary for the Substance Abuse Services (SAS) office in Reston. They hired staff from a temp agency to cover the evening shift, which was from about 4 to 8 p.m. At the time, I was taking classes at the community college, so this was a perfect gig. I answered the phone, which didn't ring much...and when people called for directions, I didn't know anything about Reston so I was truly unhelpful. I typed some letters, made some copies. An easy job. Debbie and the other secretary Jo Czoski, and sometimes Debbie's friend Sally Dunn (who worked upstairs for what was then called the Department of Human Development, which later turned into the Department of Family Services), were there for the first part of the shift so we'd shoot the breeze and have a good time.

Jermantown Road office
Then in 1990 I made that ill-fated decision to quit taking college classes and get married and I needed a full-time job (I mean, it all worked out really well in the end, but what a dumb couple of decisions!). By that time, Debbie had moved over to the Jermantown Road office in Fairfax, which was the administrative office for Alcohol and Drug Services (the new name of SAS). They used temps to cover the various ADS sites when the regular people had days off, so Debbie connected me with Frances Brown, who brought me on, still through the temp agency. I think I made about $8.74 an hour, which I thought was pretty amazing. I remember being sent to our A New Beginning residential substance abuse program in Chantilly, which at that time was in this dark, small house, and being completely clueless. I also remember being sent to work at our Falls Church Youth office, and even though I was living in Arlington by that time, I still had no clue where anything was. One afternoon as I left Falls Church, I got on Route 66 headed west....I immediately realized I'd gotten on the wrong way and needed to go east. Take the next exit, and what do you know, there's a police officer there who pulls me over and writes me a ticket for an HOV (high occupancy vehicle) violation. Somehow he didn't believe my true story that I'd simply gotten on the road going the wrong direction. I truly don't think I ever drove on Route 66 before moving to Arlington. Live and learn!

By April 1991, I was hired in a merit county position as a Clerk Typist II. I sat at the front desk for the admin office, greeting visitors, answering the phone, dealing with the interagency courier, mail and office supplies, and generally figuring out what it means to work for a living. Oftentimes we ordered in (Pizzarama was a favorite) or someone picked up lunch and we'd sit in a conference room and watch soap operas or CMT music videos. Good fun! It was a low-stress job, working 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. with no need for any overtime that I can recall.

With Margaret Kollay and my really big hair.
Next up was a Clerical Specialist position in September 1992. This position worked with the payroll team – well, a team of just two people so not much of a team I guess. I remember sitting in my very first office (with a door and everything!) the first day without a clue what to do. But then they got me trained up and I did tasks like reviewing people's time sheets – hard copy, NCR paper time sheets! – sending out performance evaluations to supervisors to complete, meeting with new employees to do their county paperwork, and that sort of thing. Somewhere in this time, I think, is when I moved from Arlington to Leesburg. My boss was a very nice lady named Pat Hicks, who was such a hard worker. Somehow in this time frame I even got to move to a couple different offices. I think I was in this job when we first got a thing called "email" – I think they called it PROFS – I wonder what that stood for? No clue now, all these years later! One of my responsibilities from time to time was to be the one to go pick up the pile of hard copy paychecks and then help hand them out back at the office. I think direct deposit was possible, but most people still preferred the physical paycheck. It was several years later that it became required that you use direct deposit.

With Cousin Debbie. I loved that jumper, but not
sure what's happening with my hair!
I was promoted to a Secretary II position in September 1993, taking over after good ol' cousin Debbie got promoted to a new job over at the CSB's office in the Pennino Building. I was the secretary for the Director of ADS, as well as supporting the Service Directors, of which I think there were four or five. I had an even bigger office (wooo), this time with windows! This was pretty much the most fun time I ever had at work. We had the "Lara/Laura Coalition" – myself, Laura Weekley, Laura Yager and Laura Schmitt – if people called and asked for La(u)ra, they had lots of options to choose from. Laura Yager was the queen of making things fun. We had scavenger hunts, "yard" sales, and did things like creating hand turkeys for an art competition. There was a balcony on one office where we hung out a lot on breaks – some of the gang were smokers so they had to go out there - and had a million laughs. (Side note: for the first couple of years I worked for the county, you could actually smoke at your desk!!! So crazy.) The job also included taking meeting notes at the Alcohol & Drug Committee, which was a subcommittee of the main Community Services Board, a group of citizens that provide policy oversight for the agency. This was something new and different, and it required working one evening per month since the meetings were at night. I learned a lot about capturing what happens during very detailed discussions in that time, and met some great Board members. I also did general sorts of secretarial work – typing letters from handwritten drafts, setting up interviews and meetings, organizing their mail, etc. One thing I remember from that time frame is when the O.J. Simpson trial was wrapping up, a whole bunch of us gathered in a conference room with a TV to hear the (disappointing) verdict. In this job, I also started doing my first graphic design tasks, learning as I went.

It was somewhere in this time frame where we got another amazing new thing at the office....the internet. Wild and crazy! Also wild and crazy....I got divorced somewhere in there. A while after that Laura Yager set me up with a guy from her softball team, who I dated long term. His best feature was that through him I met a cool new guy on his softball team by the name of Tod. Fortunately that first guy decided to move to Phoenix so we broke up, and that guy Tod and his fiancé broke up, and the rest was history. Laura played matchmaker with us as well...I remember we'd arranged for the three of us to go to a movie together but at the last minute, Laura canceled....all part of her plan.It wasn't long before Tod and I were a thing. I remember one day he stopped by the office to see me and drew a screensaver on my computer (no tech security in those days!) with a red background and hearts with the words "I love you Lara" on it – I wonder if I still have that? Sigh I think it's gone now. Somewhere in here I moved from my apartment in Leesburg, where Jennifer briefly lived with me before moving in with Wayne, back home with Mom and Jim in Sterling. I'm so lucky that they let me do that, and helped with my wonderful dog C.J. as I enjoyed my newly single life.

With Laura Yager and Joan Rodgers outside
Bravos after my farewell luncheon.
Back at work, I took a promotion to an Administrative Aide position in the Document Services Division of the Department of Telecommunications and Consumer Affairs (what a hodgepodge of stuff!) in October 1998. This job was at the main Fairfax County Government Center Building, which had its perks – I even made use of the employee gym for a while. The job wasn't a great fit, though. There wasn't a lot to do and it turned out there was some mismanagement going on in that division (like front page of the Washington Post level mismanagement), and a lot of "good ol' boys" networks where employees took advantage of their status. But I got to know the county Print Shop and mail room folks, which was really great. I did their payroll work and also was the secretary for the director. I spent a lot of time redoing the personnel files in new folders so they'd be more organized, and whatever else I could think of to try to fill 40 hours in a week.

I lasted a year in that job before I got a call from my old pals at the CSB. Someone – I think it was Amy Riggle – called and said they've got a job opening for the Clerk to the CSB Board, and Jim Thur (the Executive Director) wasn't as bad as people made him out to be. Trouble was that I didn't have any bad impressions of him, but that made me wonder! I wanted out of the job I was in since I learned it wasn't very fulfilling to be a paper pusher for a random government agency. Even though I never directly helped any CSB clients with their challenges, I always liked that I helped the people who helped. So I decided to go for it.

The Clerk to the Board job, according to my old performance evaluations, was an Administrative Assistant III and I rejoined CSB in October 1999. I think this means I may have taken a demotion for the job?? I don't remember that, but it could be – the county lets you keep your same pay if you take a demotion like that, so it would have been in name only that I got demoted. That kind of thing happens all the time. Anyway, this new job required working two evenings a month for Board meetings. That became a lot more convenient when I moved in with Tod at his apartment which was literally across the street from the Pennino Building where I worked! We probably only lived there together for a year or so, but it was very nice to be able to walk to/from work and also come home at lunch. At work, it turned out that Jim Thur truly wasn't bad to work for, though he had his quirks – I can't tell you how much time we spent reviewing whether there was a four point space after a paragraph or whether it was six points. He also LOVED executive staff meetings and literally going day by day through the calendar to make sure everyone knew which meeting was happening when. Fun use of time! I also remember once near the beginning of my time in that job when we were reviewing calendars and I had a meeting listed as "12:00 p.m." and I was told by retired Naval officer Jim that there really was no such thing as "12:00 p.m." because the 'p' stands for "post" meridiem and if it's 12:00 on the dot, it's neither "post" meridiem nor ante meridiem (a.m.). Gee thanks. Never made that mistake again...it was "12 noon" from there on out!

Tod and I bought our townhouse in South Riding in February 2001 and then we got engaged on July 23 and began planning our December 8 wedding.

There was one monumentally important day that happened while I was in this job – September 11, 2001. I clearly remember that morning, a gorgeous early fall day with a bright blue sky and big puffy clouds. It was a Tuesday which was the usual executive staff meeting day which I sat in for part of. One of the senior managers, Jim Stratoudakis, came by my cubicle and said that a plane had hit the World Trade Center in New York City. My first thought was that it was a small, single engine kind of plane and was no big deal. How wrong I was. Before long we better understood that the country was under attack and it was terrifying. So many people were on the internet that it basically came to a standstill so we couldn't easily get news updates online, but we had a TV in the office where we could watch the horror. There were rumors and fears that more attacks were coming – an alarm went off at the building, I don't think it was ever clear whether there was an actual threat (unlikely) or a mistake, or what, but we all filed down the stairs and outside. I remember trying to get through to Tod to allay my fears, but he was actually at home fast asleep because he'd been working an overnight shift at Lockheed Martin. The phones were totally jammed, but when I did get through he didn't answer since he was asleep. I also quickly learned that my sister Jennifer, who was pregnant with Aly at the time, was on a plane that morning, flying west on a work trip. We were so afraid that she might be on a plane that had also been hijacked so we were very grateful when we eventually heard from her that she'd landed safely. All planes had been grounded once it was clear what had happened, so she ended up in Oklahoma with no way to get home other than getting a rental car, along with her co-worker, and driving home. That day was so surreal. For a while afterward, no planes flew at all, so the skies were so quiet in our neighborhood, which is so close to Dulles Airport that plane noise is virtually always present. It was such a sad day for our country. Very quickly, my stepdad Jim was activated as part of Virginia Task Force One's search and rescue response at the Pentagon. When that was done, he was sent to NYC to help at the command center there. I haven't ever really talked with Jim about his experiences there, I'm not sure I could handle knowing all he's seen. What a moment in history.

A totally non-consequential memory from this time is when I was sitting at our front desk answering phones (we all took turns at that during lunch breaks) and had a caller who was not happy with something about his treatment. I couldn't help with his issue, and he asked "Is there somebody better than you that I could talk to?" Indeed! :)

My records say in October 2005 I was promoted to Administrative Assistant IV but was still doing the same work. I got to be a very good note-taker, which meant learning to distill information succinctly. When I first started that job, I took notes by hand (yikes!) but eventually laptops became a thing that was available to me. Toward the end of my time as Board Clerk, I could even get the meeting minutes nearly finalized during the meeting. In addition to taking minutes, my job was to assemble the meeting materials including the agenda, meeting notes from the Board's subcommittees, presentations and Board items that the Board would review each month, and then get those in the mail in a timely way (sometimes even making personal deliveries of the materials if things got really bad, but that only happened a few times in my nine years as Clerk to the Board. I'd set up the meeting rooms, order cookies and drinks for the meeting, and other logistics like sign language interpreters for our Board member who was deaf.

Over this time, I took on some new roles in the office that weren't exactly related to my job. We finally had a website, but the only person in the office who knew anything about HTML was Laura Schmitt, who'd also come over to work at the CSB office in Pennino. She did the work for a while, but it was even less of a fit for her role than me, so she taught me how to use the Dreamweaver software so I could help out with posting our Board meeting materials. The office also needed someone to help with things like our annual report and other publications, since there was no staff person dedicated to that kind of work. I had always enjoyed that kind of thing and had somewhat of a knack for design, so I jumped in with that as well.

Final time taking notes at a CSB Board meeting
So by October 2007, they created a Communications Specialist I position which I was hired into. Now my work was solely related to our public website, our intranet site, and our agency publications – no more Board meetings. It was a brand new position and yet another two-person team – they hired as Public Information Officer a guy named Hans Peterson who didn't last too long, then hired the wonderful Belinda Buescher, from whom I learned so much. Belinda was teeny tiny and full of happy energy. I became a better editor by learning from her how to really cut out all the extra words that you don't mean. I also learned from her about writing more clearly, in ways that were understandable to most folks – the CSB's language tends to have a lot of jargon and 50 cent words - not ideal for communicating with the public. While CSB had always had a Public Information Officer (my friend Ruth Gerbec filled the role for many years before Hans was hired), they had never had a real communications plan or structure to it. Belinda was the one to professionalize our communications. Belinda reported to my good friend Laura Yager and the three of us made a great team, filling in each other's weaknesses.

In July 2015, Laura saw to it that my position was upgraded to a Communications Specialist II and I was fortunate to be promoted. Fortunate because I know I didn't do well in the interview – it's really hard to explain that you do great work to people who you know already know you do great work! – the interview panel was Laura Yager and Lisa Potter, who of course had known me for years and years. CSB also created a second CS II position for our team, further professionalizing and properly resourcing the workload, which had really taken off. Unfortunately, Belinda worked way too hard, though, and worked herself right into disabling back pain. Ultimately she decided to take a demotion into the open CS II position, and scale back on her workload and hours.

Did I mention that all this time I was still sitting in the same exact chair in the same cubicle? Well I was! I liked my spot because it was what I called a double-wide (bigger than many other cubicles on our floor), was next to my pal Tracey Bland, was close to the printer room – which then became an office – and close to the copy room, as well as the hallway exit. Over time, the area across from mine and Tracey's cubicle, where we had a bunch of file cabinets, became known as "the party windows" as there were so many meetings that we often couldn't find a conference room to use for our celebrations of birthdays, holidays and new staff. We had a LOT of office parties, maybe even too many at some points. We had multi-day Christmas celebrations, monthly birthday celebrations, and amazing breakfast spreads to welcome new people. We did Secret Santa and for a couple years even did the "BOO" thing where you leave secret treats for Halloween. It helped build camaraderie among our co-workers, who many times worked on different teams whose work didn't always intersect. We had karaoke, we did contests to see who could identify folks' baby pictures, we played party games...we had a lot of fun in those years. 

Working from home became an option for me back in August 2010 when Amy went off to kindergarten – before then, it didn't make much sense to telework when child care was where my office was. I worked from home on Fridays, which was awesome. I think it was in 2013 that I was fortunate enough to get permission to work from home two days a week - Wednesdays and Fridays, and eventually I figured out that I could make even better use of my time by doing laundry on Wednesdays while I was home working. What a time saver.

 
The old cubicle is all emptied out.
Anyway, on my days in the office, I was still in the exact same cubicle until February 2019, they needed to cram a bunch more people in our office - I even got to work from home for a few weeks (yay!) while they did construction which felt like such an amazing privilege (little did I know what 2020/2021 would have in store for us!). I went back to a smaller-ized cubicle in the same spot (boo!). Later that year, in November, I decided to basically demand to be moved to the cubicle my colleague Amanda had vacated, which was on the next floor down (I'd been on the 8th floor, it was on the 7th) and was a glorious corner cubicle with windows. It also happened to be the cubicle that cousin Debbie used to work in, and had retired from! There was no one else seated down there for a while, just me, so it was so peaceful. The space on the 8th floor was now so crammed with people, it was pretty noisy. So I was happy with the change of scenery, which didn't last long because the pandemic hit.

Laura Yager, Belinda Buescher and me at
Belinda's retirement.
In March 2018, Belinda retired and my new boss was Lucy Caldwell, who'd come to CSB from the Police Department. I didn't hit it off with Lucy too immediately but ultimately we came to work together pretty well. She hired a replacement for Belinda, named Amanda Rogers, who was great and from whom I learned a lot – the year or so that Amanda worked with me was the only time in my entire county career where I had a teammate who did the same work I did and it was so amazing to have someone to bounce ideas off and look to for advice working out technical problems. But then in August 2020, Lucy took a job with the school system, Amanda took a promotion to another agency, and it was down to just me for a few months.

My final boss, Lisa Flowers, arrived in December 2019 and we hadn't even really gotten much of a chance to know each other before the pandemic hit. On March 17, 2020, I started working from home full time. It was a bit of an adjustment but ultimately it was pretty seamless – the only parts of my work that I'd never been able to do from home were things like printing copies or gathering giveaway items to send out for staff to use at events, and for quite some time during the pandemic there was no need for any of that. Eventually there were times that I needed help with getting things printed, but our administrative staff who were in the office were happy to help. Lisa's style was tough for me. She was all about planning and making processes, where our team had always been more about doing the things. There were also times where although her words said she valued my experience and opinion, her behavior didn't match up with that. Due to the pandemic, they'd also decided not to fill Amanda's position after she left, so I was left to try to do the work of two jobs. I'd also been doing the same thing for so long, I think I just got burned out on it. I'd always been leaning toward leaving as soon as I hit 50 and became eligible to retire, but then when I was diagnosed with stage zero breast cancer in December 2020, that just solidified for me that I didn't really want to keep doing a job that didn't make me happy anymore. Life is too short. So in January 2021 I gave my notice that I'd be leaving on April 23, 2021. I tried to give them plenty of notice (13 weeks!) so they would be able to hire my replacement and maybe even have some overlap between us. Instead, the advertisement for the job didn't even go out until after I'd left. Oh well, I tried. And that is just one more data point on why the organization wasn't making me happy anymore.

I didn't want a zoom farewell party – everyone was online all day, with so many video calls, that just sounded awful to me. In hindsight I probably should have done that, to give my colleagues a chance to say goodbye in that setting. Oh well. In the end, cousin Debbie decided to organize a party outside of work, with mostly my friends who'd already retired from the county, as well as my family. It was a great party and I'm glad we did it!

What a great group of people!

The next day I went to the office for my final day of work. It was only my second full day in the office for more than 12 months – the first being the day before. The office was still mostly a ghost town, with the majority of people continuing to work from home. I got to enjoy the awesome cubicle for a little while longer. Walking out of the building for the last time, past the Employee Child Care Center, I thought about all the days of arriving at work with the kids in the morning, and picking them up after work. How lucky I was to have an amazing child care center in the building so the kids were so close. The time went by in a blink, it's really hard to believe I worked for the county for 31 years. Never thought I'd stay that long, but I'm sure glad I did. I have a terrific pension and we've saved well for retirement, so the next chapter is up to me.

So far, just about two months in, the adjustment to retired life has been pretty seamless. I think having worked at home for more than a year definitely contributed to that. I really have not looked back and I don't miss my job at all – I miss supporting a few people/teams, but I'm glad to have moved on. I was lucky to work with so many amazing public servants, who were also tremendous people. 

My days are now entirely my own, and I feel so fortunate! 

Goodbye, tenth grade!

No shoes required for
virtual school!
What a school year, we are all so glad it's over!

This sure wasn't the tenth grade we'd hoped for, but the world had other plans. Amy did all of tenth grade from home, and it definitely wasn't easy. She finished the year with 4 As, 2 Bs and a pesky C+ in Math Analysis, which was a real challenge in the final quarter (but it's an honors class, so while that wasn't the graded she wanted, it still gets a bump in the GPA). I am proud of how she managed online school, even with the hiccups - it was a lot to ask a 15/16 year old to do, to have school completely virtually.

We are so grateful that Amy was able to do some theater stuff, and even in person by the end of the year, and that she kept her friendships up with her closest pals. 

We are VERY happy that the next school year looks to be a return to "normal," or pretty close. Being able to learn in person is going to make such a difference. 

Bring on eleventh grade!

 

Sunday, June 20, 2021

He did it!

Last day of virtual senior year

Yahoo, Reed's senior year is complete! He finished the year with 6 As and 1 B, a class rank of 107 out of 542, and a final GPA of 4.42. Very impressive!

While it would have been so much better if senior year had been in person, Reed did really well with virtual school. He only needed an occasional reminder about a missing assignment (though he would probably say the reminders were constant). This year he was invited to help in the Academic Support Center, where he and a teammate helped other students with their schoolwork. 

As COVID restrictions loosened up, and even more so after he was able to be vaccinated, Reed got to spend time with his pals, mostly playing spikeball. They even created their own spikeball league and held a draft party where they all dressed up and went through to draft and create teams for their league. 

We hosted a joint graduation party for him and Aly, who just graduated from Christopher Newport University. After going weeks without much rain, party day was mostly rainy but then cleared up pretty well by evening...still messed up some of our plans for decorating and where we'd congregate, but we made it work with multiple canopies in the driveway, and with our photo backdrop and food inside the garage. It wasn't glamorous, but it worked! We were so happy that Uncle Kenny was able to come out and spend a few days here to help us celebrate. 

Graduation day turned out perfect. A lot of drama went into the preparations and there were a lot of moving parts, but ultimately we were pretty much able to bring everyone we wanted to the graduation. Normally Freedom graduates at the Eagle Bank Arena at George Mason University, but they didn't host graduations this year. So the school planned the graduation for our football field. As much as it seemed parking and tickets would be a giant pain, in the end they weren't at all. Even the weather cooperated - a high of 78 degrees in mid-June is amazing! The school also live-streamed the ceremony so Dad and Lois were able to watch from home, as well as the Carpenters and the Kippers. That's something that definitely wouldn't have happened, pre-COVID! 

I think the class of 2021 will look back and fondly remember being able to graduate at their own school, rather than in some impersonal arena in a cookie cutter event where the next school rolls right in after your graduation is done. With so many kids graduating (second highest number in the county), they didn't spend long on speeches, they mostly got down to business. Reed hung around to take the obligatory photos with all the family, and went to hang out with some friends later on. 

It's hard to believe we made it through 13 years of school, and that Reed will be heading off to college in two short months! He has been an excellent student, even while not really loving any party of the whole thing, other than getting to hang out with his friends during lunch (back when they could do that!). I truly hope that at JMU, he will find courses that really interest him and eventually lead to a career path that will be fulfilling. 

We are so proud of you, Reed-o!

  

Monday, May 31, 2021

Amy's job

As the school year was winding down, Amy's theater teacher Ms. Novi asked her if she wanted to do a job running the sound board in the school auditorium for a two-day dance recital. She was so happy to get the opportunity, and worked alongside an older student, Claire, who ran the lighting. They were also joined by another young lady who graduated from Freedom a few years ago and who was "in charge" of the little team. Seems like a pretty low-stress gig, and it paid pretty darn well - $20 an hour - she made $300 over two days! She did this one other time too, pre-pandemic.

Amy was very excited to add her job to our google calendar and our kitchen wall calendar, and very hopeful that this will lead to more gigs down the road.

Sunday, May 30, 2021

Quiet

Throughout the pandemic, I think we've each been alone in the house for no more than two hours each. It's been a whole lot of togetherness, even as we all occupy our own spaces. The pets are living their best lives, always having company. 

As things get back to normal, I think each of us will be really glad to get the chance to be home alone again from time to time. And I'll try not to worry about how quiet the house is going to be in the fall when Reed is at JMU and Amy is back at school all day.

Thursday, May 6, 2021

Pfizer Pfamily

 


I am so incredibly relieved that I had my second dose of the Pfizer COVID vaccine in February, Tod was able to get his second dose this week, and Reed and Amy both have had one dose. It is so amazing to know we've got protection from the worst of this awful disease. At first vaccination spots were hard to come by. I was able to get it because my agency, CSB, was designated as a health care provider and even though I don't do direct care, I could still get it. Then Tod was able to get it in April due to preexisting conditions. Very quickly it was opened up for Reed to get it, and then finally they lowered the age down to 16 and Amy got her first dose.

Maybe we can begin to put this awful thing behind us now.

Thursday, April 29, 2021

Movie guy

 


For the last few years, Reed has been really into the lead-up to the Oscars. Two years ago, he and Tod even went to a special screening of some of the short film nominees. This year because of COVID, nearly everything was available to watch online. He watched most all of the major movie nominees, including foreign films. I had him fill out this ballot from the newspaper – he included what he thought would win and what he wanted to win. 

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

In other big news...

Reed has decided to attend James Madison University this fall. Yay! Harrisonburg is about two hours away, which seems like just the right distance – close enough for a day trip to visit, but far enough that you wouldn't want to do that too often. 

He was also accepted at Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond, with a $4,000/year scholarship, but after a visit to the campus he decided that wasn't the place for him. He was waitlisted at Virginia Tech and the University of Virginia in Charlottesville. UVA offered him the option to do his first year at their campus in Wise, Virginia (in coal country, down in the southwestern corner of the commonwealth, near the borders with Kentucky, West Virginia and Tennessee) and if he had at least a 3.0, then he could transfer to the main campus for his second year. But again, after visiting the campus he decided that wasn't what he wanted to do. He was rejected from George Washington University in Washington, D.C. – their loss!

In all honesty, Reed doesn't really seem too excited about JMU, but he's also just not generally a kid who gets excited about a lot of things. If he's anxious about it, we will do our best to make the transition smooth – there's an onboarding session over the summer that will hopefully help. He told us the other day that so many kids from Freedom go to JMU that they refer to it as "Freedom University" – I knew lots of Freedom kids went there, but not that many! 

Tod and I aren't the best guides about what college life is like. Tod never set foot on West Point's campus before he showed up for basic training the summer before school started, and while there are some aspects of West Point that are like "regular" college, it's definitely not the same. And I have very few memories of my one semester at Radford, so my frame of reference is very small. We will learn together, and do the best we can.

I hope JMU is a terrific experience for Reed, I'm excited for him! 

Tuesday, April 27, 2021

Retired!


Last Friday, I wrapped up more than 31 years of service to Fairfax County. It's pretty hard to believe that I worked there for that long and even harder to believe that I'm all done!

Monday, April 26, 2021

Sheesh, I'm a month behind! – Amy is SIXTEEN!

I guess things have been hectic because I failed to write about this!


Amy celebrated her second pandemic birthday...thankfully the situation is a bit better this year so she was able to have a small celebration with her friends Molly, Annika and Riley. They came over and spent several hours together doing tie-dye shirts and just laughing and having fun. It was a happy sound and we are so grateful it could happen!

Then on her actual birthday, the whole Mitchell clan got together and did this for her – it even matched the tie dye theme (though would you expect anything less when Wanda is involved?!).



Amy has weathered a tough year of virtual school, and managed it pretty darn well. It's been a lot to ask of these kids to be on their computers all day every day, and then she has extra time for virtual rehearsals too. Her grades have been mostly excellent, though she has definitely not enjoyed in-class participation over the computer. Very much looking forward to a somewhat normal school year next year.

Amy still keeps her quirky interests (random podcasts and bands), which don't overlap with many other people she knows. The lack of Broadway productions for more than a year has been a real bummer for her and we can't wait to get back to in-person shows. She has kept up with her best pals despite not being able to see them much – we encouraged her to arrange more get-togethers but she hasn't wanted to do that. Amy continues to talk louder the more interested she is in a subject (as the person who sits next to her each night at dinner, that's fun!) and she has VERY strong opinions about most things (hint: a lot of things are "dumb"). Her vocabulary is something that tickles us, she uses so many words that many 16 year olds don't even know the meaning of – all that reading as a kid paid off. Wish we could get her to do more reading, but that hasn't been happening for a while now. If she's not at school or rehearsal, she's either drawing on her iPad/tablet or lately she's playing Minecraft. 

She took the PSAT in the fall and that started the endless stream of mailers from colleges – just when we finally were wrapping up Reed getting five million pieces of college mail! She doesn't know yet what kind of college she might want to go to or what she might want to study. She is still aggrieved that chores like doing the dishes and mowing the yard started earlier for her...dreaded "second child" syndrome (been there, done that, got the t-shirt!) meant we ended up having both kids do those things at the same time, despite Amy being 2.5 years younger. That's what she gets for being mature enough to handle it! (sorry!) Driving has taken a bit of a back seat (see what I did there?) since she's so busy with theater stuff, but she gets in practice from time to time and is really looking forward to being able to drive herself to school in the fall.

Our baby girl is sixteen! We are so proud of you, Amy!

Thursday, March 18, 2021

Our worst parenting decision, ever

These plates....when the kids were little, we bought some divided plates.

"Let's get some fun, different colors!," I thought. 

What a terrible mistake that caused daily heartache for waaaay too long. These kids fought and complained SO much about these freaking plates! "I want the blue one!" "No, I want the blue one!" Oh. My Goodness.

If I could time travel, I would definitely go back and tell myself to buy just ONE color of divided plates and save a lot of trouble! We also had some small plate/cup sets with Nemo, the Backyardigans and other fun things. Those also caused endless squabbling.

We finally stopped using these plates a while back, but I wasn't emotionally ready to get rid of them since they were such a factor in our dinner times for so long. So they sat in the cabinet until this week, when I posted them on our local freecycle site and got a taker immediately. I didn't warn the lady the trouble she was inviting – I wish her luck!

Friday, March 12, 2021

A year later

Last March 11, a Wednesday, we received a phone call saying school would be closed the next day, and until further notice. They missed those two days, then two more weeks before online school began. I began teleworking that following Tuesday, and have only returned to the office a handful of time this year. The kids have chosen to stay with distance learning, even when offered the option to go back two days a week starting a few weeks ago. Tod is the only one who has mostly gotten back to normal, going to the office every day. But even that isn't completely back, since they've got everyone spaced out for safety. 

It is still astonishing to me what's happened in the last year. I never would have imagined people wearing masks everywhere they go, here in America. (An aside: It's do disappointing and infuriating that because of politics, some people have refused to take such a small action.) The year has felt like a total blur, unlike anything I've ever experienced. It's hard to know what day it even is - the new term "Blursday" totally fits. 

Some good things have come out of it - lots more time with the kids, I'm walking about 4 miles a day, we're not running off to in-person meetings or volunteer activities - but so much has been lost. This should have been Reed's time to grow and shine in his senior year. Amy should have been spending lots of time with her pals at theater (thankfully, that's started to come back a little bit, with in-person rehearsals that started a month ago with very small groups). They haven't really been able to socialize much, and school is definitely not up to par in a virtual format. 

Because of where I work, I was able to get the vaccine, which was a real relief but hasn't changed much about my behavior - still wearing masks, still not really going many places beyond the grocery store. Tod is on the waiting list due to his weight (hey, one time when being on the heavy side actually gets you something positive - that's never happened before!). They're starting to chug through people now and hopefully he gets the call soon. Reed is on the waiting list but it'll probably be a bit longer before they get to healthy young people - I really hope he can get it before he leaves for college! They're working through age regressions in testing the vaccine, so hopefully it won't be all that long before she's able to get it too.

I'm trying to be hopeful that sometime this summer things will be semi-normal, but mostly I'm hoping that the next school year will be as close to normal as we can get. We've all sacrificed and lost so much - even our family, who has been beyond fortunate in this whole mess - I can't wait for it to get better.

At some point we started thinking...hey, they don't want county employees to come back in the office any time soon...and we realized I might retire without ever returning to the office. And that's the way it's going to happen, since I'm going to retire on April 23. Just wild.

The whole world has gone through such trauma, with so many lives lost - more than 500,000 Americans. It is unfathomable and a tragedy of a proportion that's difficult to understand. I'm so grateful that we've come out so well so far, and so sad for all the families who've lost loved ones and suffered financially.


P.S. There was another bit of good news for Reed...he was accepted to JMU! It's wonderful to have a second option. Still waiting to hear from GWU, and for a final answer from VA Tech and UVA.

P.P.S. Other good news is that I recently finished my five radiation sessions, and it was completely uneventful! Now I will take Tamoxifen, a medication to prevent recurrence, for five years, but the treatment part is all done. 

Friday, February 19, 2021

Baker, baker, banana bread maker

Sigh, writing the title of this post, thinking about this book that we read to the kids about a million times back when they were little people. *sniff*

Okay, let me get it together!

We have a banana bread recipe that I got from my co-worker Erin, and we all love it and it's so delicious and we make it probably too often (since it's basically cake). 

A few weeks ago, Tod decided he'd make the banana bread. It came out of the oven kinda not the right color. I taste it. It's, um, kinda dry? I think about it and ask "Did you put the oil in?" 

D'oh! No oil = Sahara Desert-like banana bread.

Yesterday, Amy decided to make banana bread. She teased her Dad about it, saying she'd remember to put the oil in when she made it. It came out of the oven really not the right color. Or height. I think about it. "Did you put the baking soda in?"

D'oh! No baking soda = flat, spongy banana bread, just so you know.


On the plus side, I'm like the Sherlock Holmes of figuring out the missing ingredient in banana bread now.